Letter to Abdul Qadeer Baksh (Luton Islamic Centre)

Posted on January 4, 2015


Dear Mr.Baksh,

I have two daughters from different mothers. My eldest daughter’s mother is a non-Muslim, my youngest daughter’s mother is a Muslim. Both my daughters are non-Muslims at the moment. I would like to see what you made of the following:

My eldest daughter has quite a few close friends who are Muslims. I have told her that it’s OK to play with Muslims and to be nice to them but to steer clear of them during their festivals. I explained to her about Islam and told her that she must hate their festivals and whatever they get up to. If her Muslim friends offer her anything to do with their religion she must refuse it and tell her friends that we find worshipping Allah very offensive. I have also explained to her that if her Muslim friends have the audacity to pray to Allah in public then she must have enmity towards them. I warned her about the morals of her Muslim friends and told her that she must be different to them.

My youngest daughter is too young to understand any of this yet, but when she is older I will explain to her that she is not to attend her own mother’s funeral. She can be kind to her in the meantime but, as her mother is a Muslim, my daughter should not witness any ceremony that involves anything to do with Islam. I’m sure her mother will object to my rules at first but with time she will come to respect my beliefs.

Now I wouldn’t dream of raising my daughters in the way highlighted above. My daughter’s friends’ parents would be horrified to hear that I was teaching her to hate their festivals and have enmity towards her friends just because they have the cheek to pray to Allah in public. And my youngest daughter’s mother would cut my brooch and earrings off. But, Mr.Baksh, these are the kind of beliefs that you preach to your audience:

“The essence of the wala and bara returns back to tawheed, the Oneness of Allah (SWT). Those that associate partners with Allah, we have enmity towards them regardless of who they are whether they have Muslim names or are disbelievers. Look at the words of our father Ibrahim (alaihis salaam), and this is the second verse I wanted to read to you. He said in the long verse (Arabic) which means and from this day has started enmity. We are at war with each other. We have enmity between us and between you until you believe in Allah alone. So this is evidence to show that the enmity, the wala and bara is based upon iman which is based upon worshipping Allah his Oneness. So if a Christian, a Jew, a Hindu, a Sikh, whatever religions these people have out in the open, if they have the audacity to worship other than Allah in the open and call to it, and, in addition to that, celebrate their praises to their false gods and give Allah partners and so on and so forth (Arabic) then we have enmity between us and them (Arabic) until they believe in Allah alone. But does this wala and bara mean that we should not say kind words to them, that we should not give them their rights? No. It means you still give them their rights, you still say kind words to them. If they’re your neighbours you treat them good but you just don’t join in any form or fashion or shape in their worship of their false gods because we find that detestable, something detestable. And if in your hearts, brothers listen carefully because if in your hearts you do have no hatred, no dislike or you don’t find it detestable that they are celebrating the praises of another god or Allah has a son then there is something deficient in your iman. If Christmas can go by and you have no feeling of hatred towards what they are doing then there is a fault with your iman.

Some of us have been brought up in the West in this country for many years for all our lives. Our neighbours are non-Muslims, we’re kind to them like we have to be as Muslims to our neighbours. And when this time of year comes round they send a box of chocolates for Christmas or they send a Christmas card, or they do something of this nature. What should be upon us in such a situation after understanding this issue of wala and bara? What is upon you to do is to return the goods to the one who gave it to you and make it clear to them that they understand fully that we don’t celebrate it, rather we find this very offensive because our religion says x,y and z.

And if they come from another angle…the kuffar they’ll say to you ‘it’s just for fun, it’s a time for the kids, they enjoy themselves’ and so on and so forth, say: we don’t find any entertainment or any enjoyment whatsoever when God has been given a partner.

What about those people who are reverts, reverts to Islam, and their families are kuffar? How do we implement this wala and bara? It’s easy. It’s not hard, it’s not tricky, it’s not difficult. The reason why is because Allah says in the Quran (Arabic) and be companions to them in this dunya in righteousness and good. Who is Allah talking about there? He’s talking about the extended non-believing extended family. So therefore we’ll be good to them, kind to their parents, their brothers and sisters who are non-Muslims and so on and so forth. So it’s easy to do that. As for the issues which oppose Islam, then we are firm whether they are our mothers or our fathers or our children, which oppose Islam, aqeedah, iman, which oppose tawheed, we’ll be firm. In the long run they will respect that. I know one person who, when his grandmother died, that person was unable to go to the funeral because of obviously the shirk and everything, his mother went absolutely mad: ‘How can you not come to your grandmother’s funeral? Your grandmother brought you up just as much as I brought you up’ and so on and so forth’. It went on for such a long time but he didn’t go. And he didn’t go and the funeral went on.”

“…today, how much do we accept this principle of al-Islam, that we are striving to be different from the ways of the Jews and the Christians? It’s not just in belief that we have to be different from the Jews and the Christians, but also in our behaviour, in our attitude, in the way we look at life and in our morals. So much so our dress code, as the Prophet (SAW) said in Bukhari….an order, an instruction, not a suggestion, be different from the Jews and the Christians. How much different are you from these Jews and the Christians? How much of the Sunnah of the Prophet (SAW) are you following? How much of the correct understanding do you have? Is it the understanding of the Suhaba, the companions? Or is it some warped understanding from some modernist scholars that we have today?”

I would be interested to hear why you think this is an acceptable message to preach to your audience at Luton Islamic Centre.

Many thanks

Harry Matz

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